While social media has an amazing ability to connect us, it can also cause us to compare ourselves to people who we may think have it better. The grass always seems greener – and better filtered. So how can we stop falling into the dreaded comparison trap and embrace more of the good stuff? Enter Lucy Sheridan. As the world’s first – and only – comparison coach, Lucy offers advice on how to tackle the pitfalls of today’s modern world, aka: an uplifting reminder that you really are great just as you are.
#1: Notice what you notice
Your comparison is trying to reveal a hidden jewel of insight to you, so notice what you notice. For example, if your comparison is triggered when you see someone off on holiday again, what does this tell you about your need to travel? How are you serving that? In reality, someone else’s air miles have zero to do with the fact you have been ignoring your own need to get a change of scene.
#2: Stay aware and course correct
Sometimes our comparison is a false flag. Do you actually want what they have? If no, draw a line under it and let it go. If you do, then what are the reasons that are motivating you and driving you forward? Getting clear on these is rocket fuel for your dreams and cuts the oxygen off to comparison.
#3: Connect with your true self
If you can, take your left hand and place two fingers on your right wrist and feel your pulse, let your life force tickle your fingertips. Then take your right hand and slowly but firmly rub your heart in a circular motion, which will soothe your feelings. This also increases your capacity to love yourself and others and, ultimately, is an incredible comparison calming tool.